Erika Howard
Erika Howard
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He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together. Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing.
He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together. Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing.
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We were on the brink of divorce. My husband had been seeing
another woman and had become an alcoholic. He wanted me
gone from his life and I wanted no part in his life.
another woman and had become an alcoholic. He wanted me
gone from his life and I wanted no part in his life.
A friend had given me a good lawyer to call, and I was almost finished gathering all the evidence I needed to really nail him in court. I was not speaking much, not eating at all, and felt like I was dying inside. I felt like a failure.
My family was encouraging me to go through with the divorce. My best friend took me to lunch one day and she gave me all the same advice. After about an hour of listening, I could feel myself squirming.
She looked me in the eyes and said, “None of this resonates with you, does it? You want to save your marriage, don’t you? I can feel it.” I smiled because for the first time I realized that I DID want to save my marriage.
She asked me to do one favor for her, and it was that I seek professional Christian counseling for myself. I agreed. I didn’t know where to look so I prayed about it. Lo and behold, Facebook was the answer. I kept getting the same ads over and over and over.
Only one of them was for Christian coaching. I thought for sure it was a scam, but I was dying inside and felt that I had nothing else to lose, so I made the call. Thank GOD that I did!
She asked me to do one favor for her, and it was that I seek professional Christian counseling for myself. I agreed. I didn’t know where to look so I prayed about it. Lo and behold, Facebook was the answer. I kept getting the same ads over and over and over.
Only one of them was for Christian coaching. I thought for sure it was a scam, but I was dying inside and felt that I had nothing else to lose, so I made the call. Thank GOD that I did!
Erika Howard
Erika Howard
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He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together. Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing.
He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together. Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing.
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We were on the brink of divorce. My husband had been seeing
another woman and had become an alcoholic. He wanted me
gone from his life and I wanted no part in his life.
another woman and had become an alcoholic. He wanted me
gone from his life and I wanted no part in his life.
A friend had given me a good lawyer to call, and I was almost finished gathering all the evidence I needed to really nail him in court. I was not speaking much, not eating at all, and felt like I was dying inside. I felt like a failure.
My family was encouraging me to go through with the divorce. My best friend took me to lunch one day and she gave me all the same advice. After about an hour of listening, I could feel myself squirming.
She looked me in the eyes and said, “None of this resonates with you, does it? You want to save your marriage, don’t you? I can feel it.” I smiled because for the first time I realized that I DID want to save my marriage.
She asked me to do one favor for her, and it was that I seek professional Christian counseling for myself. I agreed. I didn’t know where to look so I prayed about it. Lo and behold, Facebook was the answer. I kept getting the same ads over and over and over.
Only one of them was for Christian coaching. I thought for sure it was a scam, but I was dying inside and felt that I had nothing else to lose, so I made the call. Thank GOD that I did!
She asked me to do one favor for her, and it was that I seek professional Christian counseling for myself. I agreed. I didn’t know where to look so I prayed about it. Lo and behold, Facebook was the answer. I kept getting the same ads over and over and over.
Only one of them was for Christian coaching. I thought for sure it was a scam, but I was dying inside and felt that I had nothing else to lose, so I made the call. Thank GOD that I did!
I began working with Mike & Janelle and my first goal was to learn how to change my husband. Lol. I laugh now because I realize I needed to change more!
I began working with Mike & Janelle and my first goal was to learn how to change my husband. Lol. I laugh now because I realize I needed to change more!
I had to be the first one to change. I had no relationship skills, no confidence. I was meek and timid and had isolated myself from everyone and everything that could have helped me.
I constantly criticized my husband. When I began to change these things, the way I thought about myself and my husband, and the way I spoke to my husband, he noticed.
I constantly criticized my husband. When I began to change these things, the way I thought about myself and my husband, and the way I spoke to my husband, he noticed.
I allowed the Holy Spirit to begin to change me. I began to see God as He really is, and I began to love HIM, and to live for HIM, not for my husband or for myself. I began to focus on God fulfilling my every need, not my husband.
And just like I needed God, I realized that my husband needed guidance from the Holy Spirit inside of him, not from ME! I began speaking LIFE into my husband even when he didn’t deserve it. Was it easy?
NO! Not at all.
I have shed many tears, been frustrated many times, and messed up many times. But the times when I got it right are what caught my husband off guard.
Did it change him? No, not at first. But it changed me. He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together.
NO! Not at all.
I have shed many tears, been frustrated many times, and messed up many times. But the times when I got it right are what caught my husband off guard.
Did it change him? No, not at first. But it changed me. He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together.
I had to be the first one to change. I had no relationship skills, no confidence. I was meek and timid and had isolated myself from everyone and everything that could have helped me.
I constantly criticized my husband. When I began to change these things, the way I thought about myself and my husband, and the way I spoke to my husband, he noticed.
I constantly criticized my husband. When I began to change these things, the way I thought about myself and my husband, and the way I spoke to my husband, he noticed.
I allowed the Holy Spirit to begin to change me. I began to see God as He really is, and I began to love HIM, and to live for HIM, not for my husband or for myself. I began to focus on God fulfilling my every need, not my husband.
And just like I needed God, I realized that my husband needed guidance from the Holy Spirit inside of him, not from ME! I began speaking LIFE into my husband even when he didn’t deserve it. Was it easy?
NO! Not at all.
I have shed many tears, been frustrated many times, and messed up many times. But the times when I got it right are what caught my husband off guard.
Did it change him? No, not at first. But it changed me. He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together.
NO! Not at all.
I have shed many tears, been frustrated many times, and messed up many times. But the times when I got it right are what caught my husband off guard.
Did it change him? No, not at first. But it changed me. He noticed the drastic changes in my life and was drawn to me. He eventually wanted that for himself and asked me if we could do this thing together.
Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing. He has cut off all ties with any other woman. He’s not self-medicating with alcohol, and he tells me every day how much he loves me and why.
Now we are beginning the journey of making a new life together, better than ever before. Now, he IS changing. He has cut off all ties with any other woman. He’s not self-medicating with alcohol, and he tells me every day how much he loves me and why.
We are reading and praying together every night and even able to discuss spiritual matters with grace and peace. I see a hunger in him for the things of God, a hunger that matches mine.
We are learning and growing together in the Holy Spirit.
We are becoming what we were always meant to be. We are in a place that I never knew we could get to, and it keeps getting better every day.
I don’t know what God has in store for us, but I KNOW that it will be BIG and that it will glorify HIM!
We are learning and growing together in the Holy Spirit.
We are becoming what we were always meant to be. We are in a place that I never knew we could get to, and it keeps getting better every day.
I don’t know what God has in store for us, but I KNOW that it will be BIG and that it will glorify HIM!
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